"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you."
~Jean Paul Startr~
We all have stories about how much our lives change over the months and years and, man, there has definitely been a lot of change in my personal life over the past few months. Because of this, I’ve allowed myself time to figure out what life has handed me and how I’ll choose to respond to it all. With this extra space in my life, I’ve spent a lot of time contemplating some of life’s universal questions-the ones we all want answered:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
While I’ve always devoted time to introspection, the big difference this time is that I finally feel comfortable sharing my discoveries and journey with all of you. I’m finally ready to incorporate more of my true self into my financial planning practice and the Financially Wise Women community.
For those of you who don’t know, I’m 28 years old. I started working in finance when I was 22, and for a long time, I tried to act older and more mature, as a way to fit in this industry. Along the way, I lost pieces of myself, as is likely to happen when you’re pretending to be someone you’re not.
From the outside looking in, it may have seemed like i had not changed that much, but deep down i knew i was not been 100 percent authentic.
It wasn’t until I started my own independent financial planning practice in 2010 that I became aware of this and since then I’ve been working diligently to return to my true self in life and in business. Now I’m at a point in my life where I feel confident in sharing what I’ve learned, what I’m still learning, and the questions I’ll never know the answers to. I’m ready to expose a new layer of myself in my business so I can better serve my clients and community, and give even more to everyone I meet and work with.
As women, we so often strive to have all the answers and yet, at the same time, we recognize how impossible this is. (I’ve certainly made this mistake.) But as we all know, life- which includes our financial well-being- is uncertain, full of many ups and downs. It’s an adventure. (Check out my blog post “There is No Certainty in Financial Planning” for more information on this topic). As I make this transition, I know that not everyone will understand. I may offend people, I may inspire people, I may lose clients and I may gain clients. I’m OK with that. The freedom I’m experiencing from making these choices for myself and my business is worth it. I don’t know what the outcome will be from sharing so much of myself in my business, but I feel good finally just being me again, right now, at this exact point in my life. I feel good admitting I don’t have all the answers nor will I ever. I feel good sharing that my life and my business are works in progress, just like yours.
My hope is that as I share more of myself with you all, I’ll inspire you to do the same and help you feel more comfortable with where you are in life in everything from finances to your relationships to your career. We can all learn from one another, and I hope I can provide insight as you continue your own personal journey toward becoming a Financially Wise Woman. I thank you in advance for accepting me and allowing me to share my story with you. I look forward with great anticipation to hearing your story, too. Feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with your personal story, challenges, successes, mistakes and realizations as I’d love to learn from you, as well.
For more about what I’ve learned as a small business owner, check out my blog post “50 things I’ve Learned From Being an Entrepreneur.”